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Did you ever stop and realize that some of the things you commonly say are not really what you mean even though they are generally understood? A very common example of this is when you say "I don't think…" when what you really mean is "I [do] think … not …" For example, "I don't think Nancy is an ugly woman" really should be "I think Nancy is not an ugly woman."

What brought this on? Well, the other day, I told my sister "I love being a girl." She corrected me, without realizing it, by saying "You love being you." Well, duh!

An artist always prepares the canvas before creating a work of art. Let’s face it; you girls are all artists, perhaps even more so than your GG counterparts. The makeup that goes on your face – the fun stuff/toys – won’t do what you really want it to do without preparing the skin first. A few minutes and few cents per day can help you reach your most accomplished look.

The basic requirements of a really good skin care regimen include twice daily cleansing, removal of dead surface cells, refining the appearance of fine lines/wrinkles/pores, providing essential moisture and protecting the skin from the environment. One more time:

• Cleanse,
• Exfoliate,
• Refine,
• Moisturize, and
• Protect!

So many of us describe ourselves as having a masculine side and a feminine side to our personalities. Some go even further and talk about the side we are not currently showing in the third person (i.e. he or she is …).

I believe this is a dangerous practice. To me this indicates less than a full acceptance of ourselves as a whole human being.

Several years ago I started consciously allowing my “feminine side” to be openly expressed when I was “en homme.” As I got better at doing this I found myself becoming happier, less frequently depressed, and more open with those I cared about. That’s all good.

We must learn to love and accept all of ourselves. Trying to compartmentalize our personality is a recipe for depression and disaster.

My God accepts me the way I am – as a matter of fact, as I wrote elsewhere, I believe He chose this burden for me to somehow further His kingdom on Earth.

If He can accept – and love – me this way, then I surely should be able to do the same.

It serves me little good to worry about what others may think of me. The only thing that matters is what I think of me. I choose to be me and to love all of me just the way I am.

We can’t afford to choose “sides.” We must be ourselves, whatever that may be and however we have to express ourselves.

I was asked to write something for this publication and thought that I would write about something that I know and that we all can relate to. So bear with me, okay!

Diana's first rule for appropriate attire is, "KNOW your environment!" What I mean by this is that you should know where you are and where you’re going! You ask, "What's that have to do with appropriate attire?" A lot!

If you have a chance to check out the area, you should go and see what the other girls are wearing, so you can get an idea what to wear when you go there en femme.

(Reprinted from Crossdresser Information)

So you just got out of the shower and you’re ready to shave, right? Wrong! Most men don’t have a clue how to shave.

Sure, your beard may still be wet, but your pores aren’t open enough for what I call The Makeup Shave. Now, if you’re going out in drab, go right ahead and shave the way you always have (the “man shave”). But if you’re going out en femme, then you need to learn the makeup shave.