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Reprinted by permission of Crystal from Vanity Club email

I decided to complicate this whole thread. I have agreed individually with some of you that I abhor labels as a poor substitute for reasoned thought. So much for that. Now I'd like to bring up the subject of "Who" is being labeled. To keep this from becoming a thesis, I'm cutting out so much that it may read like a fractured hard drive. Oh well.

You see there are two of us. There is "J" who wanted desperately to be a girl beginning at age 4 and matured into a successful male who had a fanatic fascination with everything female and feminine. He began wearing his sister's undies at that age and, of course, progressed to mother's things. No surprises there. About age 12 or 13 he experienced a quite significant breast development (search on Gynecomastia if you're interested). Hmmmm?

At an advanced age Crystal was born. He and Crystal live quite comfortably together. When one is out, the other takes a break and for all intents just doesn't exist. There is some leakage of feelings and information. He isn't at all interested any more in being in the least feminine. Has Crystal's emergence taken away the fascination? - The mystery?

Anyway, J certainly engaged in what we would describe as CD/TV activities. What is he now? What is Crystal, who feels absolutely no connection to the male gender, while knowing that she is not really a woman? Does any label fit this situation?

What I'm getting at is "Who is being labeled?" Crystal or "J"? Both? Oh my, how confusing things get.